IDK what to do with my life anymore..

[Loo]

So I have to admit this now. I have been having suicidal thoughts.. and jm only 14, how will i ever get through without harming myself?? Idk what to do, I cry everyday, I have no friends, i have no one to talk to in person with, I always sit by myself at school, people laugh at me behind my back,  and no one ever lets me work as a group with them when the teacher assigns group projects.. I can go on and on. I doubt anyone would netice if I died. I dont know how to socialize and I have a hard time talking, I always studder and forget what to say and i just start to freak out. What is wrong with me?! Im sorry for making a post like this but I need help and I thought its way past due that I admit I need help.

Please.. help??

 

• This topic was modified 9 years, 7 months ago by Loo.

"The greatest value comes from loving yourself for who you are" ~Lindsey Stirling

[Mio]

Hey dude, I was on the same boat when I was in school. Kids are the worst, but don’t listen to them! Theyre not worth the time. I understand how it was to be alone in school, but I’m always here to chat if you need someone to talk too. I’m sure there are many people who would care if you left. I would, even if we don’t know each other I would care deeply. Things will get better. Trust me. Keep doing what makes you happy and ignore those bullies theyre not worth your time or effort. You are always welcomed to talk to me on telegram ( my telegram is @Sleepybearr ) or on here 🙂 you’re worth it Hun. ❤❤

[Aerak]

Have you talked with your parents at all regarding how you are feeling? It might not be the easiest thing to do, but they are your parents and they love you.

School was rough on me, too. It was rough on a lot of us. But it’s important to know that middle school and high school aren’t the way the world works. I can’t sugar coat how much on some levels it sucks, however there is a lot more to life than school, and there is light at the end of the tunnel.

We’ve had several members of our community start coming to furmeets and events as a teen. And I noticed you inquired about the bowling event this weekend. If your parents are okay with accompanying you, I’d encourage you to attend. You aren’t alone and a lot of us here can identify with the feelings you are experiencing right now. We’ve been there.

If you ever want to chat, my Skype and Telegram info is below my forum avatar on the left side of the screen. =)

[Wolffine]

At your age, talking with your parents is the best advice anyone here can give you. If not that, your school’s counselor would be another good option.

[Pepper]

SugarCube wrote:

So I have to admit this now. I have been having suicidal thoughts.. and jm only 14, how will i ever get through without harming myself?? Idk what to do, I cry everyday, I have no friends, i have no one to talk to in person with, I always sit by myself at school, people laugh at me behind my back, and no one ever lets me work as a group with them when the teacher assigns group projects.. I can go on and on. I doubt anyone would netice if I died. I dont know how to socialize and I have a hard time talking, I always studder and forget what to say and i just start to freak out. What is wrong with me?! Im sorry for making a post like this but I need help and I thought its way past due that I admit I need help. Please.. help??

I absolutely understand how it can be difficult to handle suicidal thoughts.  I’ve had plenty of them and still do on occasion.  If you ever want to talk about things, send me a telegram msg @PepperFox

[Shroud]

Hey kid, I read your post and I have to say, it really reminds me of myself that long ago. School sucked at that age too. I had very few friends, no life, and the only thing I did was play video games all day. Now, I have a decent job, I live with furries, spend time working on projects, and have a lot of furry friends. I’ve come a long way. Things might suck a lot now, but your life hasn’t even begun yet. One day school life will be far behind, and you’ll have a completely different life with a new and much better you. You just need to keep with it and tackle problems one at a time, no matter how tough they are.

“All life is forward, you will see.”

-Kate Tempest, The Beginess

(A fantastic song, it might have some meaning to you)

[Vi Jackal]

Thank you for sharing. It can be hard to admit these feelings and thoughts of suicide so I’m glad you can reach out. As you can see there are people here willing to help. Your situation won’t improve immediately but have hope. If there is even a possibility that live can get better, and I guarantee it will, then hold on to that. You have no idea what the future can bring so I suggest you give it a chance on the hope it will get better.

If you need to talk feel free to drop me a line on telegram (@ViJackal). I may not always be online with competing responsibilities, but I will try to respond when I can.

[Loo]

I’m shocked on how many people in this community are so supportive, you all really lifted my spirit. At first I was really hesitant and afraid of the responses I might get if I admited to how I was feeling but I feel so much more comfortable telling people how I feel. I feel so lucky to have people like you guys in my life, it really did help to know there are people out there that notice im here and in need. I dont have telegram but seeing that a lot of people have it I will make sure to make an account. I hope to be able to go to the bowling event to meet some of you. Again thank you all for the support, I never imagined that the people in this community where so accepting and kind. I hope you all see this, I would have replied to all of you personally but I felt I would be saying the same thing to everyone so I hope this is ok.

also sorry if I sounded over reactive, I was so upset at that time.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 7 months ago by Loo.

"The greatest value comes from loving yourself for who you are" ~Lindsey Stirling

[Mouring]

There are three pieces of advice I can give:

1.  Don’t give the kids the reaction they want.  Give no reaction or turn it around and agree that you suck at <insert topic/skill>.  After a while they don’t get satisfaction and they will *MOSTLY* move on (I say mostly, because they will circle back once in a while to try again).
2. Find some after school activity being offered by the school.  No matter how geeky–glee club, debate, a sport, theatre, computer club, etc.  The reason why I state offered by the school is there tends to be adults around to moderate it.  Or at least older students that may have been in your shoes willing to tell people to knock it off (I know I did a few times in my latter years in school).
3. *DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR MORALS TO BE POPULAR*  I’ll say it again, I’ll say it thrice.   Most of my friends in high school ended up being labeled “losers, pot head, etc”  I never took drugs, I never compromised my values, and those I hung out with knew this and didn’t offer me anything more than companionship.   And frankly, I’d rather have that companionship which is closer to honest friendship then some popular person as friend.

You’ve already had others state this, but I’ll reconfirm it.  My Jr High and early High School time sucked.  I went to a public jr high school after many years of Christian private schools.  I liked/wore polo shirts (heck, I still like them today), I saw no value in wearing “designer” clothing, I talked differently, and even after I had a set of friends from theatre and few from competitive swimming (which I’ll tell you the first year was brutal and people didn’t like me for just existing) I still came home curled up and cried.   And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.  The more you bottle your emotions up the more likely you’ll do something drastic… Either suicide or start bulling others.

It all comes down to this… *BE WHO YOU ARE* and *BELIEVE IN YOURSELF*.    If you don’t then no one else will.

[Mio]

SugarCube wrote:

I’m shocked on how many people in this community are so supportive, you all really lifted my spirit. At first I was really hesitant and afraid of the responses I might get if I admited to how I was feeling but I feel so much more comfortable telling people how I feel. I feel so lucky to have people like you guys in my life, it really did help to know there are people out there that notice im here and in need. I dont have telegram but seeing that a lot of people have it I will make sure to make an account. I hope to be able to go to the bowling event to meet some of you. Again thank you all for the support, I never imagined that the people in this community where so accepting and kind. I hope you all see this, I would have replied to all of you personally but I felt I would be saying the same thing to everyone so I hope this is ok. also sorry if I sounded over reactive, I was so upset at that time.

It’d be nice to talk and get to know yea! Life will get soo much better after school. I didn’t have friends in school and the ones I had back stabbed me. Now I live with amazing furs friends and have a good job. Things will look up Hun! I myself suffer from a lot of mental illness and I’m always here with open arms to listen to you. I know exactly what you’re going through. Stay tough and hit me up on telegram when you make one !

[AtomiK]

Hang in there! I’m fairly new to this group too, and all I have to say is it’s full of amazing people 🙂 there’s always someone here to talk to or even just vent to. School can be a pretty tough time for everyone, but there’s so much more to life once it’s done. Just remember you’ve always got friends here. And if you ever want someone to randomly chat with, feel free to message me, even if you just need to vent, I’m a good listener. I’m not all that interesting, but I’m awake all the time it seems and love having random conversations, (having been a counselor as well as working in law enforcement/armed security the last 6year’s has given me some interesting stories/perspectives) especially when i get to know more of the awesome MN Furs community.

Sorry for blabbering on, i just love this community so much, and i know you will too!

Andrew - https://atomik.smugmug.com/

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